Ejaculation Speculation (Trust Me, This Is School Appropriate) (SSR)

As I do every other Sunday, today I opened my laptop and began to browse the internet for some type of topic to discuss in my blog post.  So, I searched around and quickly found a lengthy list of controversial arguments.  I ran my eyes down the page, half paying attention, half eating my delicious whole wheat pancake smothered in applesauce.  But then my eyes rested on a few words.  And I knew that would be what I would write about today. 

 

Can a man be raped by a woman? 

 

That's the big question.  But to me, that article sparked the real question: 

How the hell is that considered a controversial topic? 

 

So I researched.  And eventually found this gem.  It's an article on the website askmen.com.  The page is adorned on the side with dehumanizing pictures of half naked women accompanied by captions with compelling statements such as, "10 Things You Seriously Didn't Know About Getting It On- Class Is In Session".  Automatically, my eyes rolled.  This was going to be good. 

 

This woman, yes, the author is a woman, but honestly I do not think that matters in this argument, begins her opinion with this tale about how she was on CNN and saw an article about several men being raped by women in Zimbabwe.  She then states that the reason she clicked on the article was because she legitimately did not know if men can even be raped and if so, is it considered rape if a man ejaculates during the attack? 

 

I would like to jump in here.  Why does it matter if he ejaculates at all?  That is what I want to know.  Please, please explain to me how this is even a relevant topic to entertain.  If you read the article on CNN, and please do, the victims were reportedly given a drug or forced at gunpoint, and then raped for ritual purposes.  They were forced.  That is the central point here.  Forced.  They did not decide to interact with these women.  They did not want any of the sexual advances that were made towards them.  They were unknowing men who were forced into activities that will likely haunt them for the rest of their lives.  But somehow, whether or not they ejaculated matters.  Somehow, someone decides that they are going to silence the victims of unspeakable horrors who deserve to tell their story. 

 

The author then says that she confronted a large group of her male readers and asked them the question, whether or not men can ejaculate in a stressful situation.  But wait.  That is not what this article is supposed to be targeting.  This woman truly does not understand that rape is not a matter of whether or not you enjoyed it, whether or not you were 'asking for it', whether or not you were previously sexually involved with the perpetrator.  She is trying to back up her ignorance with a biased answer that really, had nothing to do with the original argument. 

 

The answers to her posed question were not surprising.  Some said that the rape wasn't considered rape unless it was a man forcing himself onto another man.  Others said that "you can't rape the willing", once again assuming the role of the doubter, the silencer, trying to say that you should just enjoy whatever attention you can get.  The worst responses though, were the ones where they said that they were heading to Africa.  Ridiculing the pain of the victims, while simultaneously saying that they should have loved it, and that they would have if they were in the same position.  I hope these people realize that they are the very scum of the earth.  They are below everything.  They are laying beneath the dirt in the graves they themselves dug with their spitting words, acting like shovels, heaving layers of filth out from the core. 

 

She ends the article with the answer to her dumb ejaculation question, apparently men can and will ejaculate at random times, and it does not matter whether or not it is rape, they may still do it.  She tries to wrap up the article at the end saying that men can be raped, if they are unwilling, blah blah blah.  She never mentions researching on this topic, which was supposed to be the main idea of the article. 

 

If you got anything out of this post, I would just hope that you got this.  Anyone can be raped.  Yes, women are raped a lot more than men.  Yes, the rapist is usually male.  But anyone can be raped.  Anyone.  And it is not something to joke about.  It is not something to take lightly.  People are raped every day.  And these people are normal people.  They have their own lives.  They have their own families, their own beliefs, thoughts, ideas.  They are people.  So we should stop trying to deny these people their right to speak about their experiences and struggles.  We should all be helping them to yell.